The Bible tells Christians to b “swift about hearing” and “slow about listening.” (James 1:19) This is effective and good advice when one is dealing with children of any age. Hearing and listening is very important and effective in dealing with adolescents.
This may require great effort but you have to expand your communication skills when your children became teenagers. You have to reason with them, talk things through, and let them use their own thinking abilities to resolve matters. In short, as good parents you need to reach their heart. Listening is especially vital when there is a conflict. Resolved the conflict by sitting down with your sons or daughters and listen to them carefully. And you can see that being “swift about hearing” help you to discern a deeper issue.
Proverbs 18:13 states: “when anyone is replying to a matter before he hears it, that is foolishness on his part and humiliation.”
