Wednesday, June 25, 2008

What I Think of Dates!

In many lands dating is viewed as a means of romantic entertainment, a fun activity. Dating thus takes many forms. For some, a date is a formal structured affair like giving flowers or a lovely dinner. And for others, a date simply means spending some time together with someone you like of the opposite sex. Well, whether you call it dating, going together or just seeing each other, it usually amounts or means to the same thing.

You may feel under pressure to date. Most of your peers probably date and naturally you do not want to seem weird or different. Pressure to date may also come from well-meaning friends and relatives. For some youths the pressure comes from there own desires for warmth and affection. But a teenager should not begin dating simply because he or she feels pressured to do so! For one thing, dating is serious business it is a part of the process of selecting a marriage mate.

Today, Youths are in the vulnerable period of life the Bible calls “the bloom of youth” during this time; you may feel powerful surges of sexual desire. There is nothing wrong with this because it is a part of growing up. But therein lies a big problem with teenagers dating. Teen agers are just beginning to learn how to control their feelings, dating may simply be too much for them to handle. When one is past the bloom of youth, one can better deal with sexual impulses and even then it is not easy.

After all, during the teen years, your personality is still in a state of flux. You are discovering who you are, what you really like and what to do with your life. Someone who interests you today may very well bore you tomorrow. But when romantic feelings have been allowed to flourish, some one is bound to get hurt, not surprisingly; several research studies have linked a fight with girl friend or disappointment in love as among the situations responsible for many youthful suicides.